Sexy, Not Slutty

The difference between sluttiness and beauty is class
By Xin

THINK sexy, and images of Angelina Jolie, Scarlett Johanssen and Jessica Alba come to mind. But there is only one main pin-up girl for slutty, and that is Paris Hilton. Sexiness is attractive and alluring and can make you stand out. But while being sexy is good, there are times when the fine line between sexy and slutty is blurred.

Here's a simple guide on how to look sexy without venturing into unwanted territory. Just what it is that separates the two? You’d be surprised.

1) Don’t overdo it. The three often-flaunted body parts of women are the legs, cleavage and midriff. The rule of thumb is to just reveal just one part, anything more than that would be overwhelming. For example, a short skirt with a tube top would definitely be a little over the top, but when matched with a slightly more conservative top, the skirt would draw the attention to your legs. Always know which part of your body is most flattering, and choose to highlight it, whenever possible, with the right choice of clothes.

2) A is for Attitude. You can be decked out in the latest Chanel garb and have your hair styled by a $1000-an-hour hair stylist but if you mannerisms isn’t on par with your looks, then you are really not doing justice to your outfit. Imagine a beautiful woman sashaying into a room, her curvy figure accentuated with a simple yet tasteful flowing dress, an enchanting smile on her face. Then all of a sudden, she sits down with her legs wide open and starts laughing, snorts punctuating her laughter. Not a very pretty sight, and the initial good impressions of her replaced by a creeping sense of disgust. Well, you get the idea.

3) Your choice of words matter. Fact is, steering clear of profanities might not make you a better person. But it will do wonders to leave positive impressions on people. Words, when used wrongly, cuts deeper than knifes sometimes. Should you want to get to know someone better, coming across as aggressive is definitely not what you should aim for. Say, “Hey, your office is just a few minutes away by car! Let’s do lunch sometime together shall we?” instead of “Damn! You’re that near? We should so get drunk together in the pub after work soon!” What a world of a difference a few words make!

4) Be subtle. Forget what you see in movies where men seem to be smitten by women with outlandish flirtatious gestures, such as the unabashed fluttering eyelashes and playing footsie. In reality, this will probably scare men away and you’d be stuck with an unflattering label forever. What would really work in real-life situations is to be subtler and less sexual. From the light touching of your hair as you speak to the undulating eye contact, a little does go a long way.